Under New Management

Each week when I drove to church while I was in Kansas City this summer, I drove past a sign. This sign stood outside a rather ordinary apartment complex in the “okay” part of town.  In shiny white letters on a field of dark blue, the sign declared:

NOW UNDER...

New ownership
New management
New attitude

The pessimistic side of me wondered what terrible service had happened under the previous ownership that made the new owners want to so emphatically declare that they were new, and therefore (hopefully) different and better. But I won’t ever know that side of the story.

I do, however, know a different story, which could be introduced by the same declaration as above. It’s the narrative of every Christian who has given his or her life to Christ and is striving to live by His standards.

New Ownership

Isaiah 43:1 declares that God has ownership over us, and we are His:

“But now, this is what the Lord says—

    he who created you, Jacob,

    he who formed you, Israel:

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;

    I have summoned you by name; you are mine.”

While we all are originally God’s creation, many of us he had to buy back, or redeem, from the grasp of sin. Now that we are under new ownership, some changes are expected. We must live like kids of the Kingdom and abide by its rules and standards. That way, the people around us can see the difference. We don’t need a blue sign with white letters declaring we’re different; people should be able to tell that from the way we think, act and speak.

 New Management

When we become owned by God, we immediately invite the Holy Spirit into our lives as the agent of change. While Jesus was on earth, he was able to guide, or “manage” his disciples and those around Him. Now, however, He is in heaven advocating for us at the right hand of the Father, and He has sent the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us. We’re under new management. But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth (John 16:13).

The Holy Spirit serves lots of purposes, but one of His main jobs is to lead us and guide us to a deeper right relationship with our God and Savior. In Galatians 5, Paul lists what people who don’t have the Spirit in them do, and then contrasts those actions with what has come to be known as the “fruit of the Spirit.” He then concludes with this encouragement: Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit (Galatians 5:25). The fact that we are “under new management” should be evident to those around us because of the Holy Spirit’s influence on our lives. We should “keep in step” with Him.

New Attitude  

Finally, after being bought back from sin and keeping in step with the Spirit, our attitude should reflect our new position as a child of God. As a child, I learned that I am supposed to be a light in the dark world around me. Both the song, “This Little Light of Mine” and a verse, Matthew 5:16, serve as reminders of that. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

For years I have loved the description Philippians 2 contains of Jesus’ attitude here on earth. I especially enjoyed how the Message put it [though it is not my normal reading translation]:

Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn’t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion. Because of that obedience, God lifted him high and honored him far beyond anyone or anything, ever, so that all created beings in heaven and on earth—even those long ago dead and buried—will bow in worship before this Jesus Christ, and call out in praise that he is the Master of all, to the glorious honor of God the Father (Philippians 2:5-11).

As we learn from Christ’s example, the rewards of having a godly attitude are huge. As sons and daughters of a living God, we have a great role model and a crowd of witnesses cheering us on.

So pick that white-lettered blue sign out of your yard and start living like people will notice. I need to do the same. Let’s do it!

The Superhero Experiment: a fight against perfectionism

For the last two years, my academic advisor’s main goal seems to be to persuade me to do less each semester. He once told me I had a “superhero syndrome” and I always wondered what he meant by that.

Furthermore, other professors have told me that I shouldn’t be such a perfectionist, and a few even mentioned that they think it would be good for me to get a C grade in a class at some point. What’s the deal here? I wondered.

For many months, I looked at these wise and kind people like they were crazy.  I’m not a perfectionist, I would think. You haven’t seen some of my friends! My life and my room look disorderly and chaotic compared to theirs! You don’t understand!

Yet, recently I have grown to understand that those advisors and professors weren’t nearly as crazy as I thought. I did struggle with perfectionistic tendencies. I often asked myself if I had “done my best” and I if I felt like I had not, I was frustrated and disappointed in myself.

So, I began thinking more about this whole “superhero” thing. What is a superhero anyway? According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a superhero is “a fictional hero having extraordinary or superhuman powers; also: an exceptionally skillful or successful person.”

I may not be able to go faster than a speeding bullet, be mightier than a locomotive, or to jump tall buildings in a single bound, but I have been given gifts, talents and abilities that make me extraordinary. And we’re not talking about just me here, either. Each one of us has been given a place, an identity, and talents that God wants us to use to serve Him.  In fact, God made us for that purpose: “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10). Moreover, there are lists of spiritual gifts and exhortations to look at the church as one body with many members, each serving a different purpose. We are integral parts of the world God created, and it would be somehow depleted if one of us were missing. We have purpose in this world.

Now, I must confess that pretty much the only superhero movie I have been exposed to is the newest Spiderman movie, but that’s enough to get a pretty good idea of one central point: a superhero cannot exist fully without his or her civilian counterpart. Without Peter Parker there would be no Spiderman, without Clark Kent there would be no Superman, and without Diana there would be no Wonder Woman.

The implications of this assertion are extensive.

Let’s say that I could think of myself as having characteristics of both “Civilian Laura” and “Superhero Laura,” and both of those identities are fully and inseparably attached to this 19-year-old college student. The Superhero part is the one that is fully awake in her class, with her homework done and engaging in meaningful intellectual discussion. Maybe the Superhero is also leading a project, running a program, participating in ministry, teaching, tutoring, and hanging out with friends. And of course the Superhero gets good grades, too. (Maybe even a 4.0!) Meanwhile, the Civilian may go largely unnoticed, but is necessary to sustain the Superhero. After all, even Superheroes need to sleep, eat, do laundry and homework, clean under the bed occasionally, work out, call home, talk to the boyfriend, figure out what she is going to do this summer, research for that paper that is due, and all the other mundane, non-glitzy, ordinary tasks that must be done. The Civilian may show up to class just barely on time with her breakfast bar in her hand and hair still damp from the shower she took 15 minutes ago. Perhaps she is the one urgently waiting in the Walmart check-out line, or sitting next to you at the cafeteria table with a spoon in one hand and a textbook in another. The Civilian is less often noticed, but is an integral part of the whole.

You may be wondering why the Civilian and Superhero are so integrally tied together. It is because of the economic concept of opportunity cost. This is the fact that decision-making is necessitated by a limited amount of time, energy or resources. For example, if you have one hour, you could perhaps drive to Tulsa, or you could study for an exam, but you couldn’t do both. If you have $5, you can only spend it once. If you spend that $5 on a pot of tea to share at Pour Jon’s, you can’t use the same $5 to buy a card and gift for Mother’s Day. You have given up that opportunity in lieu of something you considered better.

Now, in our Civilian/Superhero illustration, the act of being a Superhero consumes and incredible amount of energy. The fact is that amount exertion is just not sustainable in the long run.  Take a look at this chart:

 

I only have much time, energy and resources available to me each day. (You can’t get out of the circle.) Thus, in order to get each thing done, I have to decide how much I am willing to spend on that activity. (Depicted by the slices of the pie.) If I exert superhuman power toward one task, that leaves less to go around for the other. If I let the civilian take care of part of the responsibilities, that leaves more energy to go around to the other. The trick is finding the balance, and that is an unending challenge.

In times of extreme pressure, such as finals week, moving across the country, or any number of situations, sometimes things that the Civilian normally would take care of get eclipsed by the Superhero’s need for more resources. Those things get deferred to a later time. That’s fine, as long as there is a time in the near future when the Civilian can catch up. Yet, when that demand goes on for weeks and months, with the Superhero trying to take care of everything and leaving no time for the Civilian to take a breath, you end up with a weary and burnt-out duo that can’t hardly make a decision or get through another week. That’s when you need a friend to call you up and tenderly say, “Take off the cape, Wonder Woman.” You need to sleep, and eat, and take care of the normal things that concern you. The Civilian needs a chance to catch up.

This concept is why it is nearly physically impossible for any one person to give 100% on every assignment. There is simply not enough to go around. In order to maintain anything resembling a work-life balance, something has got to give. Some people choose to give up their sanity, and others choose to give up perfectionism.

Perfectionism can be given up, too. In fact, I don’t know why we think we’re ever perfect in the first place. I have heard it said, “There was only one perfect man on the earth, and we crucified him.” It’s true. We can be excellent. We can do our best. We can get the job done well. We cannot be perfect.

I worry sometimes if people like the Civilian side of me. (Please don’t take this as a cry for attention, because it’s not. It’s just a thought that has occurred to me. You probably can relate, too.) I rather like my Superhero side, because it’s awesome, cool, smart, pulled together, and on top of its game. That’s the person I want to be. But I have to admit that when my Civilian side is in her pajamas at 10 a.m. on Saturday, I like that side a lot too! Over the last weeks and months, I have been learning to accept that both are integral, and that I can love myself—and others can love me—for who I am as a whole person, whether I am feeling or acting particularly extraordinarily that day or not.

In the process, I have found many people who love my Civilian side; who hold me when I am crying, listen patiently when I am angry, and support me when I am down or sick or disappointed. If people only like the Superhero side of me, they don’t know me well enough. And if I find myself looking at someone else and thinking, They look pretty super and awesome and cool, I need to make sure I am not idolizing their Superhero persona, but getting to know them as a whole person as well.

If, after reading this, you begin to think that I have it all figured out, think again. I am sharing these things with you because they are so hard for me. I struggle with maintaining balance and giving up perfectionism every day. There are always choices to be made, and usually the Superhero is begging for more energy than I can give it. Yes, being a Superhero is fun, but I am learning to also love my Civilian side and to conserve my energy for the things that really matter. I have learned that “doing my best” means that I used my resources well, not that I did everything perfectly. So I continue to strive to do my best, and let God do the rest. I pray the same for you, dear reader.